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Couples Therapy Seattle: Support for Relationship Growth

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Relationship Support in Seattle

Do you keep having the same arguments with your partner, even though you both want things to improve? Communication may feel strained, emotional distance may be growing, or certain topics may feel too risky to bring up without things escalating.

When these patterns continue, frustration builds. Conversations turn tense or get avoided altogether. Small issues start to feel heavier over time, and the connection fades even though neither of you wants to give up on the relationship.

Couples therapy Seattle can help slow these patterns down and create space for more honest, grounded conversations. I work with couples to understand what is happening between them, repair trust, and rebuild connection in ways that feel steady, respectful, and sustainable.

Feeling Disconnected but Wanting to Repair

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Disconnection rarely appears overnight. Research shows it usually develops through repeated moments where attempts to connect are missed, conversations go unresolved, or partners pull away emotionally. Over time, these patterns make distance feel safer than closeness, even when both people still care.

Over time, these patterns condition partners to protect themselves rather than stay open, even when the desire for connection remains.

In my work, attention is given to how these patterns formed and how the nervous system responds during moments of conflict or withdrawal. The focus is not on deciding who is right, but on understanding how distance became the safer option and how closeness can return through consistent, regulated interaction. 

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Relationship Concerns Couples Commonly Bring to Therapy

Couples often reach out when the same struggles keep resurfacing, even after repeated attempts to talk things through. 

Many describe feeling stuck in patterns they do not fully understand, where conversations escalate quickly or shut down altogether. Over time, these moments can create distance, frustration, and a sense of disconnection.

I work with couples facing concerns such as:

  • Repeating conflict cycles that feel predictable yet hard to stop

  • Emotional distance, where closeness fades, and conversations stay surface-level

  • Trust ruptures following secrecy, betrayal, or broken agreements

  • Sexual concerns that affect confidence, desire, or connection

  • Life transitions that strain communication and emotional balance

These struggles are rarely about a lack of care or commitment. More often, they develop when communication feels unsafe and emotions go unspoken or misunderstood.

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What to Expect From Couples Therapy

When you work with me, sessions focus on practical, meaningful change. Rather than rehashing the same arguments, we concentrate on helping you understand what’s happening between you and how to respond differently.

We’ll work together to help you:

Rebuild Emotional And Physical Closeness

Address distance, resentment, and unmet needs directly. Create space for intimacy that feels mutual, grounded, and sustainable rather than forced or performative.

Communicate More Clearly

Move away from circular arguments and shutdown. Learn how to speak honestly and listen without defensiveness so conversations feel productive instead of exhausting.

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Break Out Of Conflict Patterns

Identify the habits and reactions that keep arguments stuck. Replace them with tools that reduce escalation and make repair possible when things get tense.

Who This Therapy Is a Good Fit For

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I work with adults who want to understand their relationship patterns and make meaningful changes. This work tends to be a good fit for:

  • Adults 21+ in committed relationships

  • LGBTQ+ individuals and couples

  • Heterosexual couples open to a sex-positive, inclusive approach

  • Partners who want to improve communication and connection

  • Couples navigating changes in intimacy or closeness

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Relationship Counseling for Monogamous and Polyamorous Couples

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I provide relationship counseling for monogamous couples as well as partners in polyamorous and non-monogamous relationships.

Couples often seek support around topics such as:

  • Relational conflict, resentment, and infidelity: Working through recurring arguments, unresolved hurt, breaches of trust, and their impact on connection and stability.

  • Effective communication and de-escalation: Slowing conversations down, reducing escalation, and helping partners express needs and concerns more clearly.

  • Attachment and family-of-origin dynamics: Understanding how early relationship experiences shape emotional responses, expectations, and adult relationship patterns.

  • Breakups, divorce, loss, and grief: Supporting couples and individuals through separation, endings, and significant loss with care and clarity.

  • Pregnancy, fertility, adoption, parenting, and life transitions: Navigating changes that affect identity, roles, stress, and emotional connection within relationships.

  • Ethical non-monogamy and polyamory: Supporting communication, boundaries, agreements, and emotional responses within non-traditional relationship structures.

Where Understanding Replaces Stuck Patterns

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If your relationship has felt stuck, tense, or disconnected, you don’t have to keep managing it alone or hoping things change on their own. With the right support, couples can learn how to interrupt unhelpful patterns, communicate more clearly, and respond to each other in ways that reduce conflict and rebuild closeness over time.

Couples therapy Seattle offers a structured, supportive way to work on relationship issues without blame or judgment. 

If you’re ready to move out of the same cycles and toward a relationship that feels more steady and workable, schedule a consultation to learn more about how couples therapy can support your relationship.